Somalilandsun:In past generations, the challenge of dating was different around the world,and particularly the Somalis. Men and woman wanted a partner who could fulfill their basic needs for security and survival. Women looked for a strong man who would be a good provider; men searched for a nurturing woman to make a home and a woman who can handle home chores. This courting dynamic, which has been in place for hundreds of years, has suddenly changed.The new challenge of dating is to find a partner who not only will be supportive of our physical needs for survival and security but will support our emotional, mental, and spiritualneeds as well.
Today we want more from our relationships. Millions of men and women around the world are searching for a soul mate to experience lasting love, happiness, and romance
It is no longer enough to just find someone who is willing to marry us, we want partners who will love us more as they get to know us: we want to live happy and we may recognize after. To find and recognize partners who can fulfill our new needs for increased intimacy, good communication, and a great love life, we need to choose carefully our partner and we should improve our dating skills.
Even if by good fortune you find a soul mate, without the right dating skills, you may not recognize him or her and get married. Many single people don’t understand this basic truth. They Mistakenly believe that if you love someone, you should want.To have a relationship with them. This is not right. The closer Someone is to being the right person, the more you will be able to see him or her as worthy of your love, but still this might
Not be the right person for you. Just because you love someone
Doesn’t mean he or she is right the one for you. Many people become confused when they fall in love. They think that if you love someone you should want to be together
forever. If you break up, they mistakenly assume that you didn’t really love them and as a result they feel betrayed. People do not realize that love is not enough. If they discover that their partner is not right, either they feel guilty ending the relationship or they unnecessarily focus on what does not work in the relationship in order to justify leaving.
Some people will automatically become more critical and judgmental to justify ending a relationship. When couples don’t know how to end a relationship with love, they bring
out the worst in their partners and the worst in themselves. Not only is this unnecessary, but it makes it more difficult to find the right person next time. There are games and manipulations to make someone love you and want you to marry you, but this doesn’t ensure that he or she will be right for you. For instance, women are experienced this kind of feeling when woman feel in love with someone she is always committed and she wants that back from her partiner. As steve harvey points out on his tv show called steve harvey morning show; steve explains that women have made clear that they want an even exchange with men: they want their love to be reciprocated in the same way they give it; they want their romantic lives to be as rewarding as they make them for their potential mates; they want the emotions that they turn on full blast to be met with the same intensity; and they expect the premium that they put on commitment to be equally ad- hered to, valued, and respected. The problem for all too many women who call in to his radio show, though, is that they just can’t get that reciprocation from men, and women then end up feeling disappointed, disenfranchised, and disillusioned by their failed relationships”.as steve told us This is something needs to be understood deeply. When we come to our society as somalis most Somali women experience this disappointment and this disillusion caused by their failed relationship.